So if you missed our announcement earlier today, we will be adding a little miss to our family in March. We are so so excited and although we have enjoyed keeping this secret of ours for almost 18 weeks, we are looking forward to celebrating this little love with our family and friends over the remaining months.
We had a few conversations with friends about why we waited so long to say anything and while we don’t take any of those questions to heart, we did have a few reasons we’d like to share. The first is simply because we can. So many things are put on social media and while we announced as soon as we could with our first, we wanted a little more of a private and personal announcement with family and close friends before notifying everyone on our friends list.
More importantly and the more personal reason was that it took a long time to get pregnant the second time around, like forever (ok, my husband says “not forever” but for me it was painstakingly long.) I feel like I wanted to say and write that out loud because I don’t hear that talked about enough. Sometimes, it takes a long damn time, so when everyone (down to a cashier at Target) asked when I planned on having another (or my personal favorites “your son is too old to not have a sibling” or “you don’t want him to be an only child, do you??”) it felt like a roundhouse kick to the throat. Every. Single. Time. Also, for those ragging on only children, I am an only child and I can honestly tell you that I’m awesome and had a great childhood. 🙂
At one point, I looked at my husband and told him I couldn’t do it anymore. Trying to conceive and feeling like I was failing was really starting to tear me down. We sat down and had a long chat about how much we love our first born and if that was all life had in store for us, we were good and happy with that. Well… welcome to two beautiful lines on a pregnancy test. As it turns out, once we took a moment to breath and let life happen, it actually did!
The second reason we took a long pause before sharing our news is that this pregnancy, as much as we have prayed for it and wished for it, has been very difficult. While I thought a little nausea was rough when I was pregnant with Little J, I had no idea how good I had it. This time around there were days I couldn’t keep anything down, I wasn’t gaining and actually lost weight and it literally felt like I was suffering from the stomach flu for most of the time. We had one (thankfully just one) emergency trip to the ER for acute hyperemesis gravidarum (IV’s are a magical thing) and one very scary early morning trip to the doctor for severe cramping. Sprinkle in a handful of several difficult moments in between equals an exhausting and not at all calm first few months of pregnancy. So with all of this going on, I was still holding my breath between each doctor’s visit that we would still a healthy little nugget on the screen.
At almost 18 weeks, I am still holding my breath. With this little one, I won’t feel like we are out of the woods until she arrives. We are anxious to get through the next several months but mostly beyond excited. Sometimes it seems surreal that we are finally adding another member to our family and other times it seems like we waited the perfect amount of time between our two littles. Little J understands what’s happening and seems to be excited about his new sibling. He even offered to move his toys out of the playroom so the baby could live there (which was great…since that was happening anyway!)
So, for now, that’s all the news I have. Thanks for reading, following along and celebrating with our little family.