Mommy Roles & Knights in shining armor

So this article has been circulating on Facebook about a comment that Kirsten Dunst made and although I don’t normally voice my opinion on things like this, the backlash that has sparked from this article is obnoxious. Here is what she said in an interview with Haper’s Bazaar UK:


“I feel like the feminine has been a little undervalued. We all have to get our own jobs and make our own money, but staying at home, nurturing, being the mother, cooking – it’s a valuable thing my mum created. And sometimes, you need your knight in shining armor. I’m sorry. You need a man to be a man and a woman to be a woman. That’s why relationships work…”


Of course it took about 5 seconds for the negative comments to spark after this interview got out. Let me be the first to say that I have personally always thought that Kirsten Dunst is an idiot but it has nothing to do with this comment.  Other than Jumangi, I do not find anything that she has done to be an exciting cinematic adventure. (Calm down all your Spiderman fans, KD was not the reason those movies were big. ) However, I support this comment and am annoyed about the backlash that has stirred as a result.  First of all, in no way is she saying that all women need to be barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen serving their man as most critics have twisted this around to look like. I took this comment to mean this: Today women are out in the world standing on their own two feet, being self sufficient with their jobs, incomes and successes but it’s also okay to be show the softer side, to be stay at home moms and to be nurturing and raising a family. It’s like blending the Oprah’s with the June Cleavers.   I struggle a little bit with the knight in shinning armor bit but I think the only reason I struggle with that is because I’m an independent women who likes to believe that she can do things without any help. You know what? That’s BS. The best thing in the world is when my husband says “I got it” and he fixes something that has turned into a complete disaster. It’s comforting to have someone be able to jump in and help. To me, a knight in shining armor doesn’t have to be a husband; it can be a wife, a friend, a parent or anyone who can realize you need assistance and who drops everything at a moments notice to help.


The “you need a man to be a man and woman to be a women” I’m not 100% on board with.  She could have probably stopped right after the knight in shining armor business and maybe would have had a little less backlash from the feminists out there but it’s Kirsten Dunst….and for the most part I think she’s an idiot.




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